You see it on TV all the time. The Police Detective meets the Murder Victim's Widow, and says, "ma'am, I know how you feel, but if you could just answer a few questions...". And the Widow turns on him, eyes red from weeping, and replies, "you don't know how I feel! Nobody knows how I feel! I just lost my husband! You can't understand my pain!" Etc. And to a certain extent, she's right. Her pain is special. Her experience is unique. But her emotions are common to all humanity. ...